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Do you scare your kids? Do you think they deserve it?

  Do you feel like that’s just the way it is? If your kids don’t do what you say and you’ve asked nicely more than once and they continue to “push your buttons” and “test your patience”, do you feel justified in your yelling? Or threatening? Your counting down? Your infliction of pain on their [...]

Leave Them Kids Alone

It was a gorgeous, clear Southern California morning. An easter egg hunt had just commenced. Life was good. Except… My son wasn’t looking for the eggs.  He was fascinated by the cat door to our friend’s house or maybe he was fascinated by the cat. From where I was standing, I couldn’t quite tell what [...]

WHEN YOUR KID SPITS AT YOU

Given the almost universal meaning of spitting at someone as a sign of disrespect, I can see how some parents take it personally and respond indignantly with some variation on “Don’t you dare spit at me…I’m your mother and no child of mine is going to …” But do you really think your child is thinking [...]

ALFIE KOHN: MY HERO

I can’t think of a better way for me to have spent Martin Luther King Day than to have worked on this post. I’m a sucker for brilliant, funny performers. My husband John Lehr is one. But sometimes at night when we’re in bed eating frozen grapes and watching The Daily Show I’ll say “Honey, [...]