A TALK FOR PARENTS
“GOOD JOB!”
AND OTHER THINGS YOU SHOULDN’T SAY OR DO…
In her signature unflinchingly frank, funny and self-deprecating style, Jennifer Lehr deconstructs typical scenes in the lives of young children to show how parents and caregivers’ best intentions can have a harmful effect on children’s development. “GOOD JOB!”: THE TALK is a provocative, insightful and potentially life-altering eye-opener.
FIND OUT WHY:
Warning a toddler to “BE CAREFUL” won’t keep them from hurting themselves and, instead, can actually make them more accident prone.
Beseeching kids to “SHARE!” won’t make them more magnanimous and, in fact, may make them hoard their possessions even more.
Telling kids to “SAY THANK YOU!” and “SAY PLEASE” and “WAVE BYE-BYE” won’t make them more grateful and polite but can turn parents into very skilled ventriloquists.
A “TIME OUT” own’t make children rethink their actions but does give them plenty of time to think about who they hate for humiliating and isolating them.
“GOOD JOB!” is not only not confidence boosting but can create praise addicts afraid of trying new things.
“IT’S OKAY” is not remotely comforting and is actually just plain insulting.
“NO” just has to be the most overused and abused word of all time.
Lehr gives a fresh perspective and offers alternatives based in the RIE Approach all aimed at treating your child with respect.